I've learnt a lot about myself and about life since my marriage ended more than 5 years ago. I've learnt to accept a lot about myself, and one of those things is that I have my own timing on certain tasks, and it's not right or wrong. It just is how it is. In my own good time, I become ready to do something that last week, last month or last year I wasn't ready to do. Why? Dunno.
And the mystery is that some of the things I put off don't seem to be particularly hard tasks. Some of the things I've accomplished were monumental (to me, at least). One of the things I've been really slow at dealing with was the change of my name from my married name back to my single name. I've been doing it by degrees. First (and fairly quickly), in common usage, I reverted to my name. It was easily done, as during my marriage I'd gone by a double-barrelled surname (Myname-Hisname), so I only had to drop the Hisname part, and I introduced myself in that way immediately after we'd parted.
Not so very long ago, I had the phone and electricity company change the billing-name to mine. I'd anticipated "Oh... we have to close the account and open a new one. That will be a €€€€€ connection fee..."
But no. They were very human. "Yes, Madam. We can do that for you."
When I set about opening bank-accounts in my name, I ran into the difficulty of all my ID being in my married name, so I had to still use that, but I was able to revert my signature to the single name.
And the ID - my passport, my driving licence... well, they'd come up for renewal, wouldn't they? Sometime ... The passport did come up for renewal this spring, and I did it. I got my new passport - and it had its maiden voyage when we went to Paris for the May weekend.
So... Driving licence. Well, you know, it's not due to be renewed for another 2 years. But maybe, since I'm now travelling on a passport in the name of Ms Myname, a Driving licence in the name of Ms Myname-Hisname might be queried in the USA - being as they're especially vigilant about documentation and all that these days, so maybe, maybe I should change it?
That's what I was thinking. And then, today, when I went to pay my car-tax, I found myself in the same office as the driving-licence desk. I almost left. And then, I thought... go ask about it.Me:
My driving licence isn't due for renewal, but I've changed my name. It's not possible to just do that, is it?Lady at desk:
Oh, yes, if you bring in photo ID like your passport showing the new name.Me:
I suppose I'd have to go get photos taken, though.Lady at desk:
No. We can use the photo that's on your current licence.Me:
Oh. Ok.Lady at desk:
So, if you come back with your passport...Me:
I have it here.Lady at desk:
Right. You just sign this slip of paper in your name, give me your licence, let me take a copy of your passport, and that's that.Me:
So, how much will that cost then?Lady at desk:
Nothing. You're not renewing your licence. We're just making a little change. That will be in the post to you on Wednesday.
It only took five-and-a-half years ..... and three minutes!
Oh... and the bank tell me they can change my name now any time I want. That's the last frontier, and I will cross it before the summer's out!
Labels: Change, goals